So the other day was National Coming Out Day. That was a day that I never even knew existed until I heard from a pal of mine. Yup, you guessed it. He took the time sensitive opportunity to inform me that he is gay. I already feel so much closer to him. It's pretty awesome to know that he is comfortable enough around me to know that I wouldn't judge him for just being who he is. I feel pretty special. I know coming out isn't supposed to be about me. It is about him. Regardless of who it is about, it is fucking stupid. National Coming Out Day sucks.
The answer to when someone says they are gay should be "big whoop. who doesn't like sex?". It is a shame that a person has to live in such fear of persecution that they live in a theoretical "closet". There really shouldn't be a day set aside to help or celebrate a person coming out because there shouldn't have to be a coming out. The world that we live in needs to get over themselves pretty quickly in regards to the gay and lesbian community. There should be no reason that any person should ever need to hide their love or lust for anyone. Furthermore, there should be no reason that anyone should ever have to be worried about what they do with another consenting adult behind closed doors. What does it matter to anyone if someone wants to sleep with a woman or a man? Nothing at all. So why does it show up in our legal system and our stereotypes. Why is there a stigma at all?
I specifically get angry about it in the legal system. Gay marriage. WHY THE FUCK DOES ANYONE CARE WHO SOMEONE MARRIES?!?!?! If you aren't included in the arrangement then you should have no say in it at all. Why can't we just be excited that two people found love and want to celebrate it? My favorite is when the religious world starts to argue that marriage is to be between a man and woman because that is the way that god intended it. Well, smart asses, marriage is nothing like it was in biblical times. Those were never about love. They were about family or livestock. So yeah, if you want to have marriage just like it was when your precious little god came up with it, go ahead. Just don't come complaining to me about it when your dad picks a mate for you based on if his best golf buddy has a kid. There should be equal rights for all people. No exceptions.
Gays, Lesbians, you're alright with me. Unless you suck as a person... in which case, I don't like you, but it's not because of how you spend your naked time. Take comfort in knowing that anyone that has a problem with you has one because they are ignorant. Honestly, this day in age, if someone has a problem with you, they probably talk to an imaginary friend and think that some carpenter zombie levitated into the sky and built a castle on a cloud, just for them. They are really the ones with something wrong.
There should be no National Coming Out Day. There should be a National Pick on Closed Minded Assholes Day. On that day, we should get to throw eggs on and taunt every single person that has ever slowed down the advancement of civilization by making others feel like shit for no reason. My buddy should have never had to worry or wait to tell me about something in his life. He isn't my gay friend now, he is still just my friend. Fuck anyone who wants me to think otherwise.
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I pride myself on being as open-minded and respectful as I can possibly stand when it comes to other beliefs, but there's a few that I just... can't be understanding about, and gay marriage is one of them. There is no such thing as a sensible, logical argument against gay marriage. Every oppositional opinion is based in emotion, bigotry, and religion, and even most emotional/bigoted/religious people will agree (when you really break it down for them) that those things have no place in law or politics.
Someday we'll be as embarrassed about this time in our nation's history as we presently are about the legal inequality of blacks in the 50's and 60's. It will be appalling that it was ever even up for discussion, that there was such thing as a 'coming out day' or 'pride week' where homosexuals can be themselves for an allotted period of time, before going back to being second-class citizens for the rest of the year.
I completely agree and couldn't have said it better myself. To this day, I am appalled that we STILL live in a world where there are views like this. Who a person chooses or wants to love, has nothing to do with who they are as a person. Just like how the color of someone’s skin has nothing to do with it. I’m sickened that there are laws that state that people CANNOT get married to someone of the same sex. It’s bullshit and people need to grow the fuck up. Times have changed and they are going to continue to change and if all those close-minded assholes want to stay behind the advancement of society, then they can. Go live in a hole for all I care but stop trying to pass judgment and make decisions that you know nothing about or have nothing to do with. Anyways, thanks Brian for writing this. I wish more people appreciated this point of view.
I highly agree with you. In fact I may just do a post myself regarding this. I like how open minded you are about same sex couples and just how spot on you are about why they should never live in fear in the first place.
Totally agree!
As much as I agree that there shouldn't have to be a National Coming Out day, the political and social environment of today it is necessary! Coming out is a big decision for those who are GLBT, and can have profound life altering consequences.
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